Unveiling Your True Calling: Unlocking the Secrets of a Purposeful Life
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”― Friedrich Nietzsche
Because I am currently serializing the book “Frankenstein; or, The Modern Prometheus”, I ran across the following quote from that book’s narrator’s (Robert Walton to his sister) first letter. It is written by the author Mary Shelley.
“Nothing contributes so much to tranquillize the mind as a steady purpose”.
8 Practical and Easy Ways to Search and Find your Meaning and Purpose
Have you looked for your purpose? Did you lose it? Or just never thought about having a purpose in life?
A lot of people go through life just winging it. One task leads to another, leads to a different group of people, leads down a rabbit hole without seeming to get to a conclusion.
Well you don’t need to “find your purpose“, or “follow your passion” to live your best life.
Sometimes we feel we are in a rut. We aren’t sure what we should do next. Being in a state of stasis. Status quo. Sameness. We may feel that we can’t reach our potential, and are unfulfilled in this mindset. There are literally thousands of books written about “How to find your purpose in life“. I’ll review a top 5 list later.
Let’s not get too deep, but following are 8 practical and easy ways to search for meaning and purpose. Keep in mind that this is a journey, and everyone’s journey is different, and deeply personal, so there is no one right way to find the answer.
Embrace the Journey: Some argue that purpose is not something to be found but rather something that emerges through the process of living and embracing the journey. By focusing on personal growth, being open to new experiences, and paying attention to the lessons life presents, you may discover your purpose along the way. This perspective emphasizes the importance of being present and open minded in the pursuit of purpose.
“The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Help Others and Make a Difference: Many people find a sense of purpose in making a positive impact on others and the world around them. Volunteering, engaging in charitable work, or pursuing careers that involve helping people or addressing societal issues are avenues that align with this perspective. Making a difference and contributing to something larger than oneself can give you a deep sense of purpose.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Your Values and Passions: Another way to find your purpose is by connecting it to the things you care about and love. Think about what is really important to you and what makes you feel excited and happy.
By aligning your purpose with your values and passions, you can find ways to live a life that matches what you truly believe in and what brings you joy. This could mean trying out different jobs, activities, or projects that are in line with your beliefs and interests. It's about finding a path that allows you to be true to yourself and do what you love.
Self-Reflection: Self-reflection is another key step to finding one's purpose. By examining your values, interests, passions, and strengths, you can gain insight into what matters most to you and what brings you joy and fulfillment. Journaling, meditation, and introspection are often recommended practices to aid in this process.
Try Different Things: Some believe that purpose is discovered through exploration and experimentation. By trying out different activities, hobbies, and experiences, you can gain a better understanding of what resonates with you and what you are naturally drawn to. This can involve stepping outside of your comfort zone and being open to new opportunities.
“You will enrich your life immeasurably if you approach it with a sense of wonder and discovery, and always challenge yourself to try new things.”
—Nate Berkus
You are Born with a Gift: Everyone is born with something special inside them. It could be a talent, a skill, or something they're really good at. Your purpose is about discovering that special gift and using it to make a difference. When you find what you're good at and what you love to do, it brings joy and meaning to your life. Your purpose is about sharing your gift with others and using it to help and inspire people. It's like having a superpower that can make the world a better place.
“Free yourself from the complexities and drama of your life. Simplify. Look within. Within ourselves we all have the gifts and talents we need to fulfill the purpose we've been blessed with.”
― Steve Maraboli, “Life, the Truth, and Being Free”
Discovering Purpose Through Pain: In moments of deep despair, when everything seems lost, sometimes a breakthrough occurs.
One person shared their story, saying, "I was on my knees, wondering if God does exist when suddenly a voice came over me and I knew what I came here to do."
This is often heard from coaches, motivational speakers, and authors who are teachers.From that point of breakdown, something amazing happens. You start taking full responsibility for your life and begin to see the world in a whole new way. You find a powerful sense of Purpose, a reason for being here. And you feel a burning desire to share your newfound realizations with others.
What was once pain and confusion now becomes your Purpose. You can use this to show others that they too can find their way through tough times and discover their own Purpose.
Even in our darkest moments, there is always a glimmer of light.
Learning from Others to Discover Your Own Purpose:
When you see someone you admire and look up to, it's great to take inspiration from them and learn from what they've experienced.
Pay attention to what you find really special about their purpose and how it connects with what you believe in. Their stories and journeys can be like a guide and give you motivation.
You have unique passions, talents, and dreams that make you who you are. So, while you can get ideas and inspiration from others, don't just copy their purpose.
Take what you learn and use it as a starting point to discover and create your own path and purpose in life. In your own unique way.
“If you choose to be fearless, then be fearlessly authentic not an imitation of someone you envy.”
― Shannon L. Alder
Purpose Around the World
The search for purpose is not just an American, or English thing. Other countries have different words for this. You may have heard of some:
Ikigai (Japanese): In Japanese culture, "ikigai" refers to one's reason for being or the source of value and meaning in life. It encompasses the idea of finding purpose, passion, and fulfillment through the intersection of what one loves, what one is good at, what the world needs, and what one can be rewarded for.
Right in the middle, where all the circles meet, is your ikigai. It's that special place where what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for all come together. Finding your ikigai is like finding your purpose in life. It's about discovering what makes you happy, what you're passionate about, and how you can use your skills and talents to make a difference in the world. It may take time to figure it out, but by exploring different activities and listening to your heart, you can find your own ikigai and live a fulfilling life.
Tao (Chinese): In Chinese philosophy, particularly in Taoism, "Tao" (pronounced as “Dao”) refers to the underlying principle that governs the universe. It is the way or path of life. It involves living in harmony with nature, embracing spontaneity, and finding one's purpose through aligning with the natural flow of life.
Raison d'être (French): The French term "raison d'être" translates to "reason for being" or "purpose." It emphasizes the idea of having a specific purpose or reason that gives meaning to one's existence.
Purushartha (Sanskrit): In Hindu philosophy, "purushartha" refers to the four goals or pursuits in life. These goals are dharma (duty/righteousness), artha (material wealth), kama (pleasure/desire), and moksha (liberation/spiritual enlightenment). Each of these pursuits contributes to an individual's overall purpose and fulfillment in life.
Ubuntu (Southern African): In Southern African cultures, particularly in the Bantu language context, "ubuntu" embodies the belief in the interconnectedness of all people. It emphasizes the idea that one's sense of purpose and fulfillment is primarily tied to the well-being of others and the community as a whole.
These are just a few examples, and there are numerous other cultural and philosophical concepts that address the idea of life purpose and the meaning of life.
Each culture may have its unique terminology and interpretations based on its beliefs, traditions, and values. They are all just as relevant.
More Reading
There are many modern books that explore the topic of finding purpose and meaning in life. Here are a few popular ones:
"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor E. Frankl: This classic book by psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl explores the quest for meaning in life. Drawing from his experiences in Nazi concentration camps, Frankl offers profound insights into the importance of finding purpose even in the face of extreme adversity.
"The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho: A beloved novel that has captured the hearts of readers worldwide, "The Alchemist" tells the story of a young shepherd on a journey to discover his personal legend. Filled with allegorical wisdom and spiritual themes, the book offers lessons on pursuing dreams, listening to one's heart, and finding meaning in the pursuit of one's passions.
"Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life" by Héctor García and Francesc Miralles: Exploring the concept of ikigai, which roughly translates to "reason for being" or "purpose in life," this book delves into the practices and mindset of the people of Okinawa, known for their longevity and sense of purpose. It offers practical guidance on finding fulfillment and living a meaningful life.
"Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action" by Simon Sinek: Although primarily focused on leadership, this book emphasizes the importance of understanding one's purpose and values. It explores the idea that identifying and communicating your "why" (your underlying purpose and beliefs) can inspire action and drive personal fulfillment.
"The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment" by Eckhart Tolle: While not explicitly about finding purpose, this influential book explores the concept of living in the present moment and finding inner peace. By embracing mindfulness and letting go of attachments to past and future, readers can gain clarity and a deeper sense of purpose.
Alex Lieberman on Jim O'Shaughnessy’s podcast, Infinite Loops: https://pau1.substack.com/i/139647255/finding-your-zone-of-genius
These are just a few suggestions if you’d like to do a bit more reading on this subject. Like I mentioned earlier, there are thousands of books on the subject. Hope you enjoy!
I asked Josh Spector, who is an online marketing guru, the following regarding “Finding your writing purpose“:
Hi Josh:
I am enjoying and learning from your videos. Thank you for the work you contribute.
I have a quick question. I’m writing an article about “Finding my purpose for writing my newsletter”. Do you have a short response? I’d like a quote that I can use in the article. Thanks in advance! Paul
Hey Paul, here you go:
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Paul! So good! My purpose and passion is reading & writing things like this. Thank you so much. The quotes were a great addition.
I think sometimes the idea of purpose can feel weighty to those who are on the hunt for it. When that comes up I suggest people let the idea go and, instead, follow their curiosity. Being curious and interested will lead you. Feeling good will lead you. And especially, as you said, learning to develop a deep, inner knowing.
I found this post really useful. Thanks for that. I'm at that wonderful stage in life where I need to reinvent myself (yet again) career-wise. While my art is my passion, it doesn't pay the mortgage (or even the dog food bill for that matter.). It would be great if it did, but in today's hyper visually saturated world, I don't even think Salvador Dali could turn a profit. But that said, when it comes to earning a living, my pops always taught me to keep my feet in two worlds: One foot in a world that feeds the soul and the other in one that feeds the belly. Anyhow it's good to delve into these transformative books to help me ponder a new career path.