I first wrote about this incredibly popular writer in October 2022. She was the author with 7 Books in the Top 10 NYTimes Best Seller's List that week. That article is here:
Colleen has been missing in action lately and her millions of fans wonder why sheโs not churning out the plethora of โnormcore thrillersโ like she was a couple of years back. What piqued my renewed curiosity about Ms. Hoover was that my daughter just went to see the movie about her most popular book โIt Ends With Usโ.
Here is Colleens statement about why she is not writing at this time:
โI just want to say a few things.
I have not stopped writing forever. The headline on the Texas Monthly article touched on a small part of an hours-long conversation with a great and very sweet journalist. I explained to her that it had been a while since Iโve been able to write because the landscape of social media has changed and it made me lose the joy I used to have for writing. But I think itโs worth digging into that a little more.
I do not mind bad reviews on my books. When this career began, it began with bad reviews and I continued to write and have fun with it. But as the whole world can see, social media has DRASTICALLY changed in the past few years. Itโs bigger and louder and gets more personal, and the more exposure a person has, the more hate they receive. And my conversation in the article centered mostly around how Iโm adjusting to it. Do I discuss it and be called weak or ungrateful or both? Do I ignore it and allow things to be said that are ridiculously and painfully untrue? Do I leave social media altogether even though itโs been one of my favorite parts of this career?
It was an honest conversation that I think a lot of us are scared to have, because frankly every conversation that ends up online is accompanied by a layer of fear of what the backlash will be. Because nothing is without backlash anymore. And every single human on the planet now has their very own podium and microphone.
Things are just different, and when you get to a point where you have the amount of exposure Iโve experienced as of late, you naturally receive more negativity. Itโs par for the course. Itโs sad that itโs par for the course, but we see it with every person who has a following on the internet, and weโre conditioned to run to the comment section to watch it all unfold and get that dopamine rush. Iโm guilty of it too.
Am I perfect? No. Do I deserve the success my books have seen? No. Iโm not sure anyone does.
But opinions are allowed, and the world now monetizes opinions, so there are LOTS more of them.
I donโt want anyone to worry about me or my mental health. I have a wonderful support system. The absolute best.
I was just trying to express my sadness that because of all the changes, I have had to temporarily back away from something I love because the idea of a release day and what that entails for not just me, but for the people in my life, make it more stressful than fun. And thatโs the truth. The end result of writing a book and releasing is just no longer a motivator, and based on the amount of authors who have reached out after my interview, it is not fun for many of us anymore. And the saddest part of that is the fear it probably puts into new writers. I donโt want people to not write simply because they are scared of the backlash for not getting every single sentence or message perfectly right for every single reader. An impossible task.
Itโs a tough crowd out there and while I constantly try to do better and be better, I also constantly reassure myself that no one, and I mean no one, can live up to the expectations of the internet.
This week has reminded me that I am seen and I am supported and my books are loved by many of you, despite my lack of being here like I used to be able to be here. And this trailer did phenomenal and blew expectations out of the water, and as much as I love those who are excited for it, I also love all those who watched it over and over to prepare their videos that are sure to rip every scene apart. Because those views counted too.
Hate me or love me, I do not share that anger and hatred in return. I am not built that way and I do not want to be built that way.
I have not succeeded because of anything other than an enjoyment of writing and doing my best to leave this world a better place. To be able to say that I have very few regrets and I am proud of who I am and proud of those in my life and am deeply loved by my immediate family is literally the accomplishment I hoped for as a child.
The rest is just fluff.
I am happy. I need you all to know that and believe it. Legacy means very little to me, which is why I do nothing to defend it. Legacy is something that happens after Iโm gone. It affects me none.
I want to be happy while I am here on this earth, in this moment. And I am.
Itโs been a while since Iโve been able to leave this space feeling the love youโve all made me feel this week. Thank you for that. From the depths of my soul, thank you.
Colleen ~ May 22 from her Facebook
Real life Drama surrounding the cast of the movie:
Why Fans Think โIt Ends With Usโ Stars Blake Lively, Justin Baldoni Are FeudingโAs Baldoni Reportedly Hires Crisis PR
Any thoughts?
Thanks for sharing that. It's very interesting as I've read a number of her books and she has always been very engaged with her readers, seemed to be doing everything they advise authors to do to succeed, and has been a role model for other authors. So for her to pull out of writing because of the blowback and negativity is quite telling in terms of where things are at on social media. But social media didn't exist in the past, so maybe getting off social media and carrying on is the way to go. The only thing you used to need to worry about was negative reviews from reviewers, but good word of mouth could override that. Imho a shame for her to give up her writing and let destructive and irresponsible people ruin her career.
Hi Paul: Took my wife Robin to see this tonight ... Monday is our 24th anniversary ... she wanted to see it ... she dug it ... and if she's happy, I'm a happy man. Bill Patalon III